It’s Okay…

I learned a pretty big lesson today….one that has taken years to learn. It’s okay that I don’t like my sister in law. It’s okay that I see her for who she is and the rest of the family doesn’t. I had confirmation today that she is condescending and passive aggressive nasty. What was the trigger?

I finally sucked it up and asked for her help in determining the best way to downsize my photos. Those of you who have been reading know that it wasn’t easy for me to do that. Her response was so off the wall I had to screenshot it and ask for opinions before I responded. My brother in Arizona full on giggled at the situation. He’s the only other family member that gets it. She sent another text about ordering some oils so I chose to only answer that text and ignore the other comment. I am still not above “I will crush her ego with my ego” which is my knee jerk reaction. This time it’s different, I woke up this morning feeling so much lighter. Other family members have made me feel like a mean person. While normally I don’t give a rats ass about what others think…this has been an ongoing thing. I can’t help it that I see her for who she is and I will continue to limit our interactions. Thankfully I meet my brother for lunch some Wednesdays so I still get to see him. I prefer it that way.

Mountain Woman gave me great advice this morning as well….

 

Bottom line is….it’s okay. I am allowed to feel however I want to about her. It is not my job to make others see her how I do or try and make them feel like I do. As long as my brother is happy I can be civil….. at an arms length. It feels so good to lay this down and walk away from it. It’s been a long seventeen years….

While I was on the phone with my Arizona brother I talked with him about different ways to promote doTerra oils because I am not having any luck in this town. I need to expand my search. He had some ideas that I have never thought about…I will be working on it soon. I had a girl that I used to work at the lab with make a comment on one of my Facebook posts “that’s a shitty brand!” I haven’t talked to her in years and this is what she posts? She’s a former drug addict turned alcoholic Jesus freak so yes “unfriend” That inspired me to clean up my Facebook friends list more thoroughly. I think I have three people who still work at the lab on my Facebook. That felt good too.

I must be making progress because not only am I still purging “stuff” now I am purging old worn out relationships. I’m just tired of always watering myself down and I am working on changing that….Zia

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About dragonflyzia

I am just a woman finally accepting that I was never meant to be in the box. I don't fit into any stereotypes, please don't try and label me, that doesn't work either. I am embracing my uniqueness in ways that are new and challenging to me, so that I may continue to grow and never stop learning.
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